Be Confident

Oh yeah， you might as well get a head start on your confidence. Be-lieve in yourself no matter what.Don't let self-doubt ruin your chance to meet a new girl or to try something new.

I know I just said that girls aren't going to like you anyway， but that's not entirely true. While you are accumulating the wisdom that comes with life experiences， your best shot is to project confidence.

Always act like you know what you're doing， even if you don't. The biggest turn-off for a girl is self-doubt.If she still doesn't like you， take it with grace and move on quickly.

Don't start doubting yourself if you get turned down. You're going to get turned down a lot before you finally get the girl.

Don't Get Attached

When you finally do get a girlfriend， take it easy. Along the same line as not trying to grow up too quickly， don't fall into the trap of thinking that this is the best girl you'll ever get.The second biggest turnoff for a girl is an 18 year old guy who's already thinking about marriage.

當(dāng)你有所積累之后，旅行、藝術(shù)、文化、運(yùn)動和冒險都會有一種不同的新面貌。你一層層地疊加起來，每種經(jīng)驗(yàn)都會比上一次來得更加豐富。

比物質(zhì)享受更重要的是經(jīng)驗(yàn)

如果你面臨這樣的選擇：改善你的生活（自己的公寓、一部新車、一套新衣服等），或者是減少工作時間去經(jīng)歷更多的事情，那么我建議你選擇后者。

當(dāng)我在你那個年齡的時候，我曾認(rèn)為只有擁有許多物質(zhì)才能讓女孩子喜歡我。于是我努力地為擁有物質(zhì)去工作，結(jié)果卻是因?yàn)槲姨Χ鴽]有了時間去結(jié)識女孩子。

埋頭工作是成年人的事情。盡可能延長和享受你的青春吧，即使這意味著你要和室友共享一個公寓，并且在鎮(zhèn)上騎著自行車亂逛。

另外，女孩子們在那時候總歸不會喜歡你的。她們真正想要的是一個有自信、有生活經(jīng)驗(yàn)的男人。而埋頭工作只會推遲這一天的來臨。

要自信

是的，你要建立自信。不管是什么一定要相信自己。不要讓自我懷疑毀了你去結(jié)識女孩子或者嘗試新東西的機(jī)會。

我知道我剛剛說了女孩子們不會喜歡你的，但是也不盡然。當(dāng)你從生活經(jīng)驗(yàn)中積累了智慧之后，你的撒手锏就是展現(xiàn)你的自信。

一定要表現(xiàn)得知道自己在干什么，就算你其實(shí)不知道。對女孩子而言，最掃興的就是自我懷疑。如果她仍然不喜歡你的話，要從容地接受現(xiàn)實(shí)然后向下一個目標(biāo)出發(fā)。

不要在被拒絕的時候開始懷疑自己。追求成功之前你總是會遭遇無數(shù)次的拒絕的。

不要被束縛

當(dāng)你有了女朋友，不要太緊張。這和不要急著長大的道理一樣，不要過早地認(rèn)定這就是你一生的最愛。對女孩子而言，第二掃興的事情就是一個18歲卻已經(jīng)考慮結(jié)婚的人。

Relax a little and enjoy the moment. Besides， you're going to have several girlfriends before you find "the one." How are you going to be able to know what you want if you don't have anything to compare it to？

As you get older， you'll naturally become more attractive to women. I had no idea this was true when I was your age.I thought that I was as at-tractive as I'd ever be.Not true.

It gets easier， I promise.

Don't Get a Credit Card

If I didn't get a credit card when I was your age， I would have saved myself 10 years of financial struggle.

I know it seems like you have to be a grown up and have nice things， but you've got to think long-term. If you can just have the patience to hold off a few years on the nice stuff， you'll be able to afford more of it than you can imagine.

Buying something today on credit because you can't wait will impact your financial situation for years to come.

Simply have the mind to save up for what you want to buy. If you buy with cash， you'll always own what you have， and be free to do what you want.

When people build up debt and monthly payments， they become slaves to their job. They have to work to pay for all the junk that they put on their credit cards.

Put Money Away Every Month

Take this advice and you'll never regret it. Open a savings account and set up an automatic withdrawal from your checking account each month.Don't touch the money， NO MATTER WHAT！

Even if you can only afford$10 a month， you must stick to this plan because it's your ticket to freedom. In five or ten years (whenever you de-cide to grow up)， you'll use this money to invest in something that makes passive income， like real estate.

輕松地享受當(dāng)下。另外，在找到真命天女之前你可能會有好幾個女朋友。如果沒有可以比較的參照物，你如何得知你究竟想要什么呢？

當(dāng)你日漸長大，你會很自然的對女性越來越有吸引力。我在你那個年齡的時候完全不知道這事情。我認(rèn)為那個時候的我是最有吸引力的。這是不對的。

我保證，這會隨著時間而變得越來越容易。

不要申請信用卡

假如我年輕時沒有申請信用卡的話，我能夠減少10年的財政困難。

我知道你認(rèn)為作為一個成年人應(yīng)該物質(zhì)生活要豐富多彩，但是你要從長遠(yuǎn)來看這件事情。如果你能夠有耐心為更優(yōu)渥的物質(zhì)生活多等幾年，你會詫異地發(fā)現(xiàn)你能夠過上更好的生活。

如果只是因?yàn)槟愕炔患傲司退⑿庞每ㄙ徫锏脑挘@將會對你接下來許多年的財政狀況產(chǎn)生影響。

只需要為你想買的東西存錢。如果用現(xiàn)金付賬的話，你會一直擁有你擁有的，并且能夠自由地去做你想做的。

當(dāng)人們有了債務(wù)開始分期付款的時候，他們就成為了工作的奴隸。他們不得不為那些用信用卡刷出來的垃圾而工作。

每月定期儲蓄

你接受這個建議就絕對不會后悔的。給自己開一個零存整取賬戶，然后每個月存入一定的數(shù)額。不論發(fā)生什么事情，都不要去碰這一筆錢。

就算每個月只能存入10美元，你也一定要堅持，因?yàn)檫@是自由的門票錢。五年或者十年內(nèi)（當(dāng)你決定成人的時候），你能用這筆錢去投資一些能帶來收入的東西，比如房地產(chǎn)。

Travel and Learn a Language

Don't just take language classes and backpack around Europe at a fu-rious pace；immerse yourself in a culture. Pick a place and stay there for several months.

The best time to do this is the year after you graduate from college. You'll be old enough to appreciate the experience， but young enough that you won't have any responsibility.

If you took my advice about taking your time to grow up， you won't yet be attached to a mortgage payment， a job， or a girl. Move all your stuff into a corner of your parent's basement and live abroad.

It's actually a lot more affordable that you might think especially if you don't have any expenses at home. Get a job in your chosen country if you need to.

Don't allow yourself to hang out with other English-speaking people. That's too easy.Force yourself to learn the language.It will be frustrating at first， but the life-long benefit will be greater than you can imagine.

Keep a Journal

Get a Moleskin Notebook and carry it in your back pocket wherever you go. Don't be a perfectionist with it；just jot whatever comes to your mind in it.

Having a journal will help to solidify your thoughts. The act of writ-ing helps to close the circle of ideas from your head to your hand and back to your head.

Plus， you'll have a record of your thoughts for generations to come.

Get to Know People

As you travel and try new things， make it a point to meet people. As I said before， the most valuable things in life are shared experiences with other people.

There is so much you can learn from people. Open your mind and take in different perspectives.Put yourself in their shoes and try to under-stand why they think the way they do.

Your success in life will depend on your network of people. It's im-possible to achieve success in a vacuum.You never know what opportuni-ties will present them when you meet new people.

旅行袁并且學(xué)習(xí)一門外語

不要只是參加語言學(xué)習(xí)班，并且背包游玩歐洲各地。你應(yīng)該使自己沉浸在一種文化里。選擇一個地方，并在那里待上幾個月。

這件事最好在你剛剛畢業(yè)那一年的時候做。那個時候的你足夠成熟去欣賞這個過程，又年輕得沒有任何責(zé)任要去負(fù)擔(dān)。